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I Vote For…

About.com Reader's Choice Best Dating-Related Blog Finalist

The AAbout.com Reader's Choice Best New Dating Site of 2011 Finalistcademy Awards, the About.com Readers’ Choice Awards, municipal elections, a new season of American Idol.  Everywhere I turn, there’s voting, voting and more voting.  (An aside about About.com–“Readers’ choice” all comes down to devoted voting.  A big THANK YOU to those of you who are voting everyday for Greenlight Card.  It makes us feel great.  Voting ends on March 8– if you’re so inclined, by all means, click on the images and vote.) But all this voting got me to thinking.

These things aren’t up for election or in a contest, but if they were, I’d be voting for them:

  • Honesty: You can elect not to tell your height or weight or income, just don’t lie about it!

  • Disclosure, when it matters: Not admitting to the fact that you’re over 40 and living with your parents–NOT okay!  Admitting that you feel compelled to use a Q-tip to clean between your toes every night–not necessary.

  • Kindness: We could all use a little more in our lives.  Be kind to others.  And be kind to yourself, too.

  • Getting serious: If you spend too much time worrying about making a commitment, you’ll never do it.  Dive in with your whole heart.
  • Lightening up: Some things just aren’t as important as we make them out to be.  Save your energy for the things that really do matter.

  • Caring: That “oh-so-cool” demeanor–it’s not really all that cool.
  • Being present: With all of our gadgets and the ever-present existence of the Internet, are you truly focusing on what’s happening around you?  Turn off those devices and give your kid, your friend or your date your full attention.  Aaahhhh.  It feels good, doesn’t it?
  • Going for it: Shoulda, woulda, coulda?  Been there and not doing it anymore!

What about you–what do you think is worth your vote?

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Oops, I Did It Again

Love the sweater, it’s hot, but your makeup is really over the top. I like you better with a natural look.

Hmph, the food in this place is just ok, dog. But, you know, it’s nothing special. It’s just not doing it for me tonight.

The movie, I don’t know what to say really, because it was just horrendous!

I didn’t get to see American Idol tonight, but just watching it sporadically this season has evidently rubbed off. Even without a tape to listen back, I know I was a bit too judgmental yesterday. And maybe the day before that.

I’m hoping my friends will give me another chance, but when you’re meeting new people, exposing your judgmental side can be a serious mistake.

Going on a first date means putting yourself on the line. You’re looking for acceptance, interest and attraction, and you’re hoping to return the feelings. I seriously doubt you’ll criticize your date directly, but even if you take a run at the non-personal stuff—like the restaurant, the news or the weather—your date is going to secretly wonder how harshly you’re judging him or her.

On a first date, leave the postulating to the pundits.

And I’m sorry if I was channeling my inner Simon yesterday. I’ll try to do better. How about you?

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