Just the other day, Village Voice blogger Leslie Minora called dating calling cards an example of the way “the Internet dating world keeps one-upping itself with newfangled ways to have awkward encounters with strangers.”
Ouch! That hurts, especially since the whole idea behind Greenlight Cards is to avoid awkward encounters. I mean, what’s more awkward than trying to find the words to let someone know you’re interested in getting to know them better? The words always sound smooth and natural in your head but often don’t come out that way, if they come out at all. And asking outright means at least one of you will feel awkward if the interest is one-sided.
Thanks to a well-placed exclamation point, the sarcasm practically oozes off the screen when Leslie later says that the receiver of a dating calling card can “start conversation that can, ideally, lead to a perfect match!”
Here’s the thing–online dating sites are drawing millions of people in with the idea of finding their perfect match online. We don’t think anyone’s perfect, but we absolutely understand the desire to meet “the one.” The one who doesn’t try to be perfect but is just right for you. The one you want to make happy and vice versa. And why couldn’t “the one” be sitting in your favorite coffee shop or coaching your kid’s soccer team?
Greenlight Cards aren’t about honing in on a perfect match. They’re about boosting your confidence, providing you with a way to make an impression, and enabling you to make a promise to yourself to stop letting opportunities pass by without at least seeing what might happen if you put yourself out there a little. In our “ideal” world, the conversation happens first, then the Greenlight Card, then a date and the chance to see whether the initial attraction you felt might lead to more dates.
Toward the end of Leslie’s blog, you’ll see our videos were deemed “cheesy,” which stung a little. But then she also posted her favorite*, which is the kind of mixed message that can drive you crazy in a new relationship, right? (It’s like the person who says “I’m not ready to commit” and then invites you to a family wedding.)
So what do you think about our videos? I happen to think our touch of “cheese” is quite endearing. And we’d love to see your own cheesy-or-not video about the challenges of being single. Send it to us and, as long as it isn’t “inappropriate” in some way (a caveat that’s necessary when it comes to dating), we’ll post it right here and share it with the world.
*By the way, this was Leslie’s favorite video. What’s yours?