If you’re complaining about not meeting people and you’re going about life as usual, you’re in trouble. And deep down, you know it. You can’t expect something different to happen if you’re living a same-old, same-old life.
And that’s why you’re reading this post…I’m going to give you five ways to shake things up. And they are painless, fun and worth your time. I promise.
Here’s the most important part to understand—the goal of this exercise isn’t to meet your soul mate. It’s to change things up and have fun. The more often you seek out new experiences, the more likely you are to run across someone interesting, and then, well, if you let that person know you think he or she is interesting, you can see where that leads.
When you’re a positive, fun person, you’re a more attractive person. Attractive people get asked out more often—because they attract other people. But you knew that, didn’t you?
So here are my top five ways to shake it up:
- Throw a party. You can invite your closest friends if you want, but make it a requirement that they bring someone you don’t know. That way, the party is half full of new people for you to meet.
- Go on vacation. I know that times are tight and you might not feel like you have money to spend on a vacation. But whether it’s a day or a weekend or two weeks, get out of your house and spend at least one night someplace different than where you usually lay your head. Different doesn’t have to be expensive.
- Get a new job, find a new way to volunteer or take a new class. All of these involve group activities, so you’ll get to know new people in the most natural way possible, by working together.
- Break a sweat. Ideally, join a team, but any physical activity works. Pick a sport, go dancing, or just hit the gym—the post-workout endorphin thing you’ve been hearing about is real. It will make you feel better.
- Join the crowd. If you read the newspaper, watch the news or go online, you can easily find out where people are going. So pick something and go. A protest. A sports event. An art opening. A health fair. A concert. Go where other people are going. You’re there. They’re there. At the same place for the same experience. What an easy way to start a conversation.
If you’ve tried these ideas or have some of your own, spill it in the comments! In return, I promise some great party ideas in an upcoming post.